When dating someone new and in person, they never want to hear about your sexual escapades with previous partners or about techniques in bed that your ex particularly enjoyed. While they don’t want to hear the specifics, though, they typically enjoy experiencing the things you’ve learned, and the outcome of those moves and techniques can be rewarding in more ways than one.
During phone sex, everything is communicated through those words, so you need to talk about things you’ve done in the past, but not necessarily in a way that tells your partner what you’ve done specifically. Reading that sounds confusing, so here is a better explanation. When you are chatting with your partner during phone sex, you can visualize doing that thing with your tongue that drove your ex wild in bed. Describe your technique and how you move your tongue, but don’t tell your phone sex partner about that one time on vacation with your ex when you discovered their reaction to the move. Focus on your partner and what you’re doing, not on reminiscing about the last time you did it.
When you know what you’re doing, it shows, and confidence is always sexy! During those times when you’re out of new ideas, then draw on past experiences to spice things up with your phone sex partners! Combine that move that the one partner from the club liked along with a technique you learned from a different phone sex partner and keep going. The new mix of your favorite moves with have you excited and will get your partner’s juices flowing in no time!
If you do find yourself talking about a past lover or partner, do so in a kind way so your current partner doesn’t think you’ll speak about them in a negative way later. Everyone here just wants to have some fun, so keep the conversation positive and sexy so you can make the most out of your call! If you ever have trouble explaining specific moves, try playing them like a porn clip in your mind and describe the moves that you’re watching. Remember to describe where your hands go and how you’re moving so your partner gets the same experience you do!
It’s easy to bring past experiences into your current conversation, be mindful of the person you’re speaking with, as well. Remember that they are giving you all of their focus and attention, and they want to be the sexiest and most desired person in your mind in this moment. Give them the attention and participation they deserve, and they will ensure the experience is phenomenal for you both!