Let’s first start with the purpose behind having phone sex. It’s safe, can be done from any distance in the world, and it helps relieve any sexual tension and desires that you may have with minimal expectations as well as being able to explore with complete strangers if you so choose.
Additionally, phone sex is known to increase eroticism and sexual exploration often because of being discrete and private.
While any sexual encounter can be new and exciting, it is not uncommon to be slightly nerve wrecking and uncomfortable at first, hence providing those of you with some useful tips to help avoid those awkward silences and potentially put your nerves at ease.
Be Yourself
While you may think that you have to get into character to participate comfortably during phone sex, it is not necessary. It is advised to be yourself unless you desire to pretend to be someone else. In which case, we encourage you to explore that fantasy of being someone different if that arouses you.
Be A Guide
Don’t be afraid to guide your phone sex partner and use descriptive words to relay what it is that you’re desiring. Being transparent can help both you and your partner to reach the climax you both long for and stating what you’d like them to do, such as slowly unbuttoning their shirt or how to remove their panties and begin rubbing themselves softly in a circular motion can encourage further vocalization.
Seek Inspiration
If you often find yourself nervous before a call, seek out inspiration through the internet, erotic novels or even a movie you found sexy. Having inspiration on how to deliver sexual intent can dramatically increase enthusiasm for both parties. The advantage of seeking out inspiration prior to your call is that your partner will be none the wiser, so it works to your advantage.
Avoid Distraction
Set the stage before the call. Ensure that you’re comfortable and turn off the sound on your tv, mute your incoming calls and text messages and don’t allow yourself to be distracted as these things can cause major disruption and thought process which may result in being sidetracked and not knowing what to say next.
Use Sounds & Feelings
During your call, it is okay if in the heat of the moment you find yourself at a loss for words, but we suggest being vocal with groans in those moments to express the pleasure that you’re experiencing. Additionally, if you can, try to explain what you are feeling during those elevated moments. Things like “OMG I love how it feels as your mouth is wrapped around my shaft” or “My dick is so hard for you” can help your partner to know that what they’re doing for you is positively being received.
Ask Questions
Whether you ask what they like, how they like it or if they’d like for you to do something for them, disbursing questions enables the potential for response to further guide you both in a direction that is satisfying and not one-sided.
Sexual Closure
Unless stipulated by your partner, the primary objective is for you both to be completely satisfied at the end of your call. Use active listening and your intuition to determine if your partners expectations are to reach orgasm also.
Leaving them hanging at the end of the call may be a deal breaker for future fun, so be sure to fulfill their needs too.
