When you’re utilizing a chat line, it’s sometimes difficult to keep the conversation going, especially if you’re nervous. But what should you do when your chat partner is a bit timid, or you’ve at a loss on interesting things to talk about but you just don’t want to put the phone down? There are many things you can do to encourage further conversation. Follow these tips for things you can inject into the discourse to make it last even longer.
- First, make your questions as interesting as you possibly can. Try to avoid yes or no questions, because such questions are easy to answer and won’t keep your phone partner chatting! For example, instead of asking “Did you have a good day?” inquire “What did you get up to today?” This will also rely on that you’re interested in what your potential match experienced.
- Sex maybe what’s on your mind, but it’s usually a good idea to save any sexy talk for when you know each other a little better. It’s okay to make silly jokes that a little bit sexual, or compliment someone on their appearance if you find them attractive, but if you take things slow on the sexual side, then you may find that you’ll get to know someone better, and they’ll get to know you better too. This could help them make the decision to initiate a future call if you just have sex on the brain while conversing.
- Next, to keep the conversation flowing, find out what interests, TV shows, cuisines you have in common and then elaborate on these topics by inquiring why your match likes these things. Other potential questions to ask would be how they got started with a particular hobby, what’s their favorite restaurant, and when they go to that location what dishes they tend to order and why?
- Don’t rush things. The point of a chat line is that you can get to know someone by talking on the phone. Take your time and pace the conversation as fast or slow as you need. Wait until you sense that your match is ready for more explicit discussions.
- Don’t force someone to tell you about themselves, as that might make them clamp down even harder. Instead, gently ask questions that provide the ability for them to elaborate on. If you sense that someone is getting upset or is uncomfortable with a question, then revert to another subject, and remember what questions to stay clear of for future interactions.
- It’s important to show that you can be a little vulnerable on the phone. Tell them something personal about yourself, but if it’s the first time you’re talking on the phone, don’t go dark as you want to keep things light and intriguing. A story about a career challenge you’ve endured or maybe a stressful travel experience you once had would be perfect. Save the deeper personal experiences for when you know each other a little better and avoid any tales about your ex’s.
- Telling stories is one of the best ways to avoid awkward silences during a chat line phone call. Stories usually take time to explain, and they also encourage the other person on the other end of the line to chime in with their own stories about a similar experience or topic. Telling stories about your life is one of the best ways to get to know someone while at the same time they get to know you.
- If you are talking on a chat line your intentions are to have some fun, and probably progress to having phone sex. Phone sex is awesome because it can be done just about anywhere. You can sit in your favorite part of the house and just jerk off while your babe is on speaker. But if you’re trying to multitask during your call, this will likely present discouragement as no one wants to chat while you’re loading the dishwasher or saying hi to the neighbors as you go to check the mail. So, be considerate and devote yourself to the call to avoid displeasure from your potential match.
- Consider discussing roleplay ideas and fantasies if the conversation takes you in that direction. There are so many ideas out there to choose from but start off with light banter and pay close attention to your match and what they appear interested in chatting about. This will assist in expanding the comfort zone opening opportunities for more in-depth discussion.
- Flirt with “out of this world” encounters. Just about anything is possible if your phone friend is onboard with the idea. This could include alien planets, robots, or even superhero concepts that include unique powers to keep things spicy.
- Another topic idea is to mimic a robot sex slave who must do whatever you say, and they never question you. They will just go “beep bop yes I will do what you tell me!” This fantasy maybe more common than you think so don’t think it’s weird. People love mind control fetishes as it’s a form of BDSM without being bound and gagged.
- Talking about your future goals and aspirations for life and asking them about theirs will give you a really good idea of what they are all about. Follow these tips for a great phone conversation!
- The other side of casual sex talk, you may find that you’re falling intimately for your match. With phone chat love and romance is not always intended, but if you think you are falling for someone, they might feel a little hesitant if you express your feelings too soon. Again, letting someone get to know you before jumping into heavy emotional topics is strongly advised. Make sure that your match is feeling the same way before exposing your new feelings.
Talking on the phone and getting to know someone should not be awkward, but if you find yourself struggling to keep the conversation flowing, try one or more of these tips. However, if you feel that it is not a compatible match, politely end the conversation and continue you search for someone who strikes your interest.